I was on bedrest from 7 weeks until my son was born

I spent the last two months in the hospital. Matty was 6 weeks early.

My mother and friends cooked up some meals for the freezer. My ex was not able to handle the fact that our son was going to have a birth defect and basically was of no help at all. My friend moved in and she would leave my meals in a cooler by the couch (we had a two story house so I slept down stairs) before she would go to work in the morning. I planned meals and clipped coupons during the day.

The most important thing is having a healthy baby and keeping your little one inside as long as possible. Don’t worry about housework, errands etc.

Everything will work out in the long run.

I was an bedrest for months before each of my children were born. I could ONLY get up to go to the bathroom! To pay all our bills (we had quite a lot as I was not able to work) we even applied for a couple of no credit check installment loans from MtpLoans company.

With pregnancy #1, my husband would make me a sandwich and put it in the fridge (I would get it on my way back from the bathroom). We also bought canned drinks so I could just grab one when I got my sandwich. He did all the cleaning and cooking when he got home in the evenings.

With pregnancy #2, I had my daughter (then age 2). I would read books to her during the day and watch some T.V. with her. When I was thirsty, she would get me a canned drink from the fridge. My husband would make us breakfast before he left in the morning, come home during his lunchbreak and make us lunch, and come home and make us supper and clean up. He was such a sweetie pie.

That was alot of sacrifice on his part that I appreciated sooo much!

Good Luck!

I haven’t been through this

…but I have a few ideas for helping your husband in the kitchen through your bed rest:

1. One no-brainer recipe for BEEF STEW:

Open up 4-6 cans (1 or 2 of canned beef stew, 1 or 2 of canned potatoes, 1 can corn, 1 can green beans). Heat and serve.

Eat in bowls with crackers (he might want to add a cup of water and a beef bouillon cube), or serve over bread for open-faced sandwiches. It’s very hearty and good!!

2. A few VERY simple recipes. Each takes just 1 pound of ground beef, plus just 1 or 2 other ingredients:

  • Sloppy Joes (add 1 envelope of Sloppy Joe mix and put into hamburger buns)
  • Tacos – (add 1 envelope of taco seasoning mix and put into tortillas)
  • Spaghetti Sauce – (add bottled spaghetti sauce and put onto pasta)
  • Chili (add chili seasoning mix) and serve.

* Some of these may require a can of tomato paste, I can’t remember.

3. A few more simple dinners:

  • chili dogs – heat weiners, stick in buns, pour channed chili over the top.
  • fish sticks or fried fish portions and tater tots – throw in oven, pass the ketchup.
  • bbq chicken – 1-2 cans chicken pieces heated with 1 bottle bbq sauce (dilute with water if nec). Serve over pasta or rice.
  • frozen pizza
  • frozen chicken nuggets or fried chicken pieces
  • boxed dinners like Hamburger Helper, Tuna Helper, etc.
  • pork chops – fry them, throw on cream of mushroom soup and simmer a bit, S&P, and serve on rice.

These are probably not what you would make, but cheaper than take-out, take no skill, no chopping or fussing, do not even require reading recipes, and all are very fast so can be made after dh gets home from work. Also, from a working man’s perspective, these ideas may be more tolerable than measuring out spices and sticking hands in meatloaf goo or raw chicken, for instance.

Just have him round out each dinner with a canned veg heated up, maybe bread&butter, or canned fruit.

Most of all, remember, y’all won’t starve and he will survive. He will also appreciate you all that much more, when you are back on your feet. Lise

We just went through exactly this with my SIL

The bottom line is having a healthy baby. Everything WILL get done….if it doesn’t, oh well. Keeping that baby inside until it is ready is the most important. We thought my brother would never be able to handle it all……they also have an 8 year old. You know what? He did great! Ask your mom, MIL, sisters, SIL’s friends to make up some meals for you. They will want to help!! Ask them to bring a copy of the recipe so your husband can make the stuff that they like.

You can clip coupons in bed….make him a grocery list. I hope some of this helps you. Keep us posted.

I haven’t been on bedrest, but was taken off work a month early. There are some things your hubby can be trusted (LOL) to do to help stock up the freezer.

–have him brown ground beef; some plain, some with garlic & onion, etc. He can bag it in sandwich bags, then put 4 in a gallon ziploc to freeze. Then all he’ll have to do for spaghetti and such is defrost a bag for a minute or two and pop it into the sauce.

–if you were to sit by and direct traffic, could he mix up some simpler recipes, like meatloaf, to put in the freezer?

You know, this could be a great benefit to your future freezer cooking, because he’ll see how much time it saves HIM, lol.

I’ll try to think up some more, Dayna in MS

Hi all,
I just got home from a mini hospital stay due to early contractions (a little more than 2 months early) and I am hoping that someone(s) on this list can guide me. I must stay on strict bed rest-no cooking, no shopping etc for at least a few days, maybe a week or maybe the next two months. I will know more as I return to the Dr every few days or so to check for dilation. I am wondering if anyone on this list has gone though anything similar and can let me know how they have dealt with it, preferably as frugally as possible.

I was going to return to work next week part-time for a few months to help us save a little bit of money and put us in a better financial posiiton when the baby is born. Now, I am not sure if I can or should return.

I am also worried about our budget. I was going to start stocking up our freezer to help out later but now I can’t cook. The most I can do is get up and make a sandwich! YIKES! So dh is going to have to take over EVERYTHING for awhile and I am just so worried.

If anyone has been through this or has any suggestions on things I/my dh can do to ease the situation or not bust or budget I would eternally appreciate it.

That lunchbox sounds neat

Maybe I’ll have to look around for one if the kids get tired of the stuff we normally pack. I don’t seem to get a lot of complaints. Older DS buys, DD either takes ham and cheese or cold pizza (if we have any), and younger DS either takes turkey and cheese or he likes the canned spaghettis (40 cents a can at the salvage store for the ones with meatballs) and I put those in the thermos cups and he says they’re hot enough for him at lunch. DD has taken leftover chili and I put it in the thermos cup and she says it’s still warm at lunch so that works for us. Oh well I guess I’ll see what this year brings. I’m sure something new ! LOL

Do the lost lunchboxes ever turn up Daryl ? I can’t say we’ve ever lost one for real. Younger DS has left his at school a few times but it’s always there the next day. That would get expensive replacing lunchboxes like that. I found a nice canvas type (?) lunch box for younger DS at Costco 2 years ago and it seems to be holding up great. This will be the 3rd year for it. This is the longest we’ve had a lunchbox last. The plastic/vinyl type only last a year if we’re lucky.

My oldest 2 are forever losing lunch boxes and bags so I send paper ones now. It seems like such a waste but losing the other is much more expensive. They also lose thermoses so i can’t save as much and give as much variety as I would like. I “accidentally” came up with an idea for keeping the hot foods hot longer when I stored a smaller insulated zip-up lunch tote inside another. It seemed to make sense to just keep them together and put the hot food inside and double “bag”, so to speak. I think a microwaveable hot pack would also keep the food even better. Where would one find those? I never thought about getting one, so I’ve never looked.

Most of the time the lunch boxes do eventually come back. The plastic juice boxes are another story. I have learned to write my son’s name on them with paint pens. I think he is a little embarrassed but he gets over it. The hot pack came with the lunch box but I am going to buy a few more while all of the back to school stuff is available.

With all the talk of school lunches

With all the talk of school lunches I sat down and talked to ds11 to think about lunches. He likes leftovers and “hot” food. Last year I bought the old food thermos’s mentioned in the TW gazette but the food got cold. We also tried the thermos that came in the lunchbox which was colder.

There is no microwave available.

What do you all use or suggest?

The middle school lunch is $1.50 from the cafeteria or more from the fast foodcarts the bring in (Arby’s, Pizza Hut). I think I can make him a lunch for less but he eats a lot also so I think pasta’s and such would fill him up.

Also, Savalot has a 10pk of frozen burritos for $2 something any ideas how to keep them warm?

Thanks for all the ideas. I was not filling the jars with hot water and my dh pointed out to me that they were cold food jars,They have liquid in the lid to freeze. oops!-LOL!!!

I am however going to go to WalMart and buy a Real thermos for my ds. My dh found a stainless steel one he got for being his brother best man and we tried it this am and the food is still warm. Now hubby wants to use it too. Hey this might turn him around and stop buying his daily burrito from the lunch truck.

Lasagne gardening

Well, I finally did it! I’ve been ‘saving’ carboard, grass clippings, newspapers…you name it! I am about half-way to finishing my lasagne garden and I’m so excited!

I would have never thought of this on my own, nor would I have known about the book….so thanks to everyone who was sooo ambitious this past spring and who did this. BTW, how did this type of garden work for you if you did it? DH and BIL are going to be loading up a huge trailer of aged horse manure on the weekend and then some barn litter for the next layer.

I *think* that I have a source for the cedar mulch/tree bark for free for my paths. Before DH and the BIL got involved, I had a nice little plot started of about 10 x 12. Now it is a cool 20 square foot area…YIKES! Hopefully Sunday afternoon I’ll have my garlic bulbs planted in one little area of it for next year.

So come on everyone…fess up. Would you do it again the next year?

I posted before

I posted before that I bought my son a two compartment lunch box at Costco. It was under $10 and seems to be very well made. It even has a shoulder strap.

I will probably get a spare within the next couple of weeks because I am afraid that I won’t be able to find another one when this one gets lost as it inevitably will. The top compartment is for hot food and comes with a hot pack. You heat the hot pack in the microwave and then place it next to the hot entree. It seems to be very well insulated so I hope that it works.

I never had very good luck with thermoses (Is there such a word?)I practically bought the glass liners in bulk and the food was still not hot enough. My husband has a metal one which is great and really does keep things hot. It is really for liquids such as coffee and tea (not wide mouth).

It works well but I could probably have lunch catered when you factor in the cost of replacing the lost ones every few weeks.

We are in a similar situation

We are in a similar situation, but ds, 11, does not have the option of buying a lunch at his school. Therefore, he brings lunch everyday. This is what we started doing the end of last school year (and will resume again tomorrow!).

We bought a thermos for each of the boys. In the morning, they cook up what they want to bring. In the meantime, they put hot water in the thermos, per the directions that came with it. This heats the thermos up. They then put the food in the thermos just from being cooked. Example: they like tortellini. They boil the tortellini and put it straight in the thermos after they drain it. The thermos is already heated up from the hot water and the food is VERY hot when they put it in.

I don’t know exactly how hot it actually was at lunch (usually cooked about 7 or 7:15 and lunch at 12), but they kept doing it, even ds13 at the time (who is VERY, shall we say, discriminating). When ds11 and I were coming up with lunch ideas for this week, 4 out of 5 require the thermos, so it must work pretty well! Good luck and please share any other ideas you may get – we are always looking for something different to try!

Barb in Central Florida.
“If you can’t find me, I’m either in the car or at the hockey rink!”

Which type of thermos cups were you using Sharla ? I have short thermos type cups that have a screw on lid. I have sent leftovers in them and my kids say they are still fairly warm for lunch. I put boiling water in them in the morning and let them sit while I heat up whatever they are taking. I heat the food up really really hot and then dump the boiling water out and put the food in. This seems to work.

As far as something like a burrito or hot pocket I have heard of hot packs for lunch boxes now. I’m not sure how that would work if you also needed to keep other items cold. I haven’t used this type of thing. Our intermediate and high school lunches are either $1.50 or $2.25 (for double entree or another larger lunch). One complaint I have is that even the larger lunches (our 17 year old son buys these) still only included an 8 oz. drink.

That is not enough drink for a large lunch. Another complaint I have is the elementary lunch is not enough food for bigger kids. My 11 year old will be in his last year of elementary school this year and he packed last year for this reason. I think the lunch guidelines need to be upgraded for older kids.

I came in at the tail end of this conversation, so forgive me if I’m repeating. Dh is in construction. After breaking a few glass thermoses I had to admit they were not a viable alternative. Stomping my feet all the way to the register, I bought one of the expensive steel thermoses (I think they run about $30).

In all honesty, last winter he complained that at lunch time his soup was too hot. The one problem I could forsee is that it has a narrow opening.

And I don’t know if they make them wider. Good luck. It was a good investment for us.

I would love it if the thermos ever came back home again! I have stopped buying the fancy little lunch boxes, they never make it back home. I use good old brown paper sacks. I went to a restaurant supply store and got little cups with lids for things like jello and pudding cups, cups of diced fruit, dip, etc. They work well. Although if making jello make the jigglers recipe and put in the cup. Regular jello melts and gets all over.

I need any ideas you have

My daughter and SIL, and grand kids are going on their first vacation ever. Leaving tomorrow morning early. Yesterday we found the toilet was not draining, and water backing up in the tub. She is in a one year old mobile home.

We tried Liquid Plummer, Drano….followed by hot water with 8 ft, 15 ft and 25 ft snakes. we plunged into the tub, the toilet, the sink, and the kitchen sink. …The system is like a long y with the bathroom ceramics and then into the kitchen for the sink there…..past the kitchen and laundry room is their private bath and bedroom….THOSE are working properly.

They are past the main, while all the above is on the other side of the main…everything appears to come together in the middle of the mobile home. We tried calling plumbers most wouldn’t work on mobile homes, and none would come out today. Found one who wanted $95 to come out and figured another $3-400. We shelved that bathroom til they got back…

That’s all the money they had for the trip after putting new tires on car to make the trip. After moms death, they need a break they were there with us all the way…kids included. …anyone out there know what we need to do. Appreciate any help!